Meh.

You're missing the fact that all those things you criticize as being bad parenting are in fact, part of how parenting is defined.

They're doing these things as part of the job of parenting. In other words, parents became obsessed with grades because influencers and experts convinced them they were bad parents setting their kids up for failure if they didn't. This was marketing to create a new industry in order to feed the capitalist need for endless growth. Then, like everything in America because America is a land of extremes, it went off the rails into crazy extremes.

Do you blame the parents for being snookered and having insecurities that are easily exploitable? Seems kind of hypocritical when that same ploy of using marketing to make people feel like failures in life so they'll buy something they don't need and is probably bad for them has been used successfully time and time again across all walks of life. Are we blaming and shaming anyone else or do they get sympathy and eventually a counterculture?

Cause I think it's the latter.

If you ever do have a kid, you'll be singing a different tune pretty quick.

The trouble with being on the outside looking in is that it tends to manifest into a particular kind of tunnel vision. It's not the three dimensional view as you might think.