Maybe not initially based on just first impression physical attraction.

But women get blamed and shamed by men for the exact same thing they do. Lot of guys are not initially super attracted to their partners. They didn't even notice them until she put herself in his line of sight long enough to see past just looks.

Turn about's fair play. You men have hyperfeminine preferences and we women have hypermasculine preferences. Both sides have to see past that perfoemance to the real person. If one gender can't or won't do that, they have no right to demand or expect it of the other gender.