Maybe.

If you're not dating anyone then that would be true.

But if you're "not contacting" these women you have deemed unsuitable but you ARE attempting to date other women and presumably we're talking about dating apps... (Otherwise, why would you have to make the choice to "not contact" some of them) when in truth, in your deepest heart of hearts you don't want a relationship THEN you'd still be representing yourself as seeking something that you're not really seeking. You'd be conducting yourself under false pretenses, because you'll eventually find something wrong with them and discard them.

I'm not trying to bust your balls here and I don't know you. I'm just pointing out that you may be operating from a false belief you have subconsciously, like maybe that you HAVE TO be in a relationship to be valued as a man by society.

You'd hardly be the first. I think we've all been there over or something or other at one time or another. When we're in that headspace, were most definitely hurting ourselves and also likely hurting others.

That's one of the risks we all take dating. So it's not like that makes any of us evil scum of the earth villains. It just means that doing this human thing is hard and we all fuck up a lot.

But if that's you, if you really don't want a relationship.... The quicker you get out of that headspace and back to a place of authenticity the better for everyone, including you.

Cause you're saying a lot of things that are a real scattershot. They're not flush. They are not falling on the same plumb line within an acceptable standard deviation. Do you get what I'm saying?