Love maps are established around age 6.
These young girls are groomed to be abused and the young boys are groomed to become abusive and/or neglectful.
That's why it continues. Because Fundie religions keep crearing the dynamic.
You are absolutely right on that.
If you grew up Fundie, you never stood a chance of not having to walk through those flames. I'm so sorry you went through that, and I'm very happy you're out and with someone better.