LOL. Tone doesn't magically make unrealistic standards more palatable. They are either unrealistic or they are not.

I would argue that softening your tone is just being extra shady because now you're stringing somebody along by trying to be more enticing or alluring.

Everyone has the right to their own standards and everyone has the right to tell someone else that they can take their bullshit standards and shove them up their ass.

No one is being forced into relationships with these people.