I've seen it. It's a hard view, but it does a good job of covering all the dynamics that are common.

Agree with you about it seeming like one wants the rape just for the release of violent impulse.

It's one thing to feel and acknowledge the emotion. It's another to emotionally dump all that on someone who is already dealing with trauma.

That person needs to know they still belong. Making it all about you and your anger doesn't exactly foster a sense of belonging.

It's inappropriate. It's not that the emotion is wrong, it's whonyoure sharing that rage with and at what time and under post trauma circumstances.

And men aren't the only ones who feel this rage. God help the man who hurts my sweet Urchling because there is no place on this Earth he could hide. But never in a million years would I express that rage if she disclosed to me. That moment is for her, and what she needs, not my feelings. Rage, righteous or not, can wait. Restoring that sense of belonging cannot.