I’ve got to admit, I take a different tack to this article. I do not agree with you.

Cheating is not ok. Ever. It’s not the fault of the person who was cheated on. Ever. No matter what they did prior to"deserve" it.

Cheating is a form of abuse. It’s something one partner does to the other.

I get what you’re saying about the break down of your marriage. That you did things or didn’t do things you now regret. His had options other than cheating. Many of them. He could have sucked it up and been the one to leave.

There’s a difference between acknowledging that you made mistakes or failed as a partner and saying that explains, excuses, or validates his cheating.

People think you have a wedding and it’s a big event and that’s it, you’re married. But that’s not a complete truth. That’s the legal and community/family witness of a union but it’s not the whole of marriage. You decide whether or not to be married every day in the decision times of all the little moments and all the big moments. You’re responsible for your decisions and actions only. He is responsible for his.

He could have talked to you. He could have requested counseling. He could have asked to open the marriage. He could have asked why you no longer craved his company. He could have said he needed a break and separated for a while to clear his head BEFORE crossing that line. He could left and moved on.

Out of all those possible options, what makes cheating (the only abusive one btw) be a valid, rational, understandable one?

Might want to ask yourself that so you don’t end up in a similar relationship again.