I've been passed over in much the same way too many times myself. Quit and gone to work elsewhere, hoping for a different culture. Same old same old.

So, not for a long while, no. I'm focusing on other things instead of professional development. There's no point, right?

Though, iny case, it's because I'm not "nice". I don't pander to inflated egos. I guess you could say I'm a little butch, I'm not a lesbian and I myself don't consider how I dress either masculine or feminine and I don't care. But I don't do froofroo. I don't wear makeup. I don't spend hours on my hair. So I don't dress for the male gaze; I kind of have a practical work "uniform".

I'm direct and that's offputting to men. I put responsibility where it belongs when things go wrong and get things resolved quickly.

I've been told that there's some "why buy the cow when you get the milk for free" type thinking going on. I don't get promoted because I'm too good at my job, can't be replaced easily, and am efficient enough to pick up any slack elsewhere without it affecting metrics.

I've also been told that because I'm a single mom I'm seen as too much of a risk for more responsibility, even though I've never used all my sick time until the end of the year before it resets and others who have been promoted are constantly short on time and begging HR to shuffle their time, etc. Even trying to have another employee "gift" them their time, if you can imagine. But that guy was "nice" and didn't mean any harm, not a thief.

We all know how it is. Bias of all sorts is alive and well. Perform and jump through endless hoops or be punished in some way.

I'm writing a book now. Doing other things. No longer investing in that/those which will not invest in me. They can say what they want.