It's seems a conundrum, but you are, in fact, hijacking.

If you cared about ending violence, it seems you would talk about how to keep violence, perpetrated mostly by men regardless of what gender the victim is, from occurring. The question is, how do we keep (mostly) men from becoming violent.

But no.

No. Instead the focus is always, "80% of victims of violence are men. We're bigger victims than you women. Why do you get all the attention? I WANT MY ATTENTION ! So Mnah!"

How childish. Wish I could say I'm shocked or surprised.

Hmmm. You know, all along there was nothing in the world stopping men from taking up this issue of violence for themselves, well before feminism brought it to light and started advocating against it. Nothing in the world. But they didn't. Not until women did.

Okay. 'Bout damn time. I was wondering if you lot were ever going to show.

Strangely though, some of you men didn't show up to join hands and combine forces. You showed up to compete. Interesting.

One has to wonder if you're really concerned about the levels of violence chipping away at all our lives and eroding the commons or if you're just pissed because in the absence of male or institutional support or acknowledgement, feminists took up this issue on behalf of women. Maybe you feel left out. Maybe you're just jealous of the attention. Who knows?

Maybe you really do care about it, but you're just lacking in enough self awareness of how you come off like a clod with that particular tack. Again, who knows?

If you do actually care about it, try a different approach and a different tack. See how that gets received. Because it's not that feminists don't want allies, we just don't want to deal with the petty one-upmanship of who experiences violence the most or the worst.

It doesn't get us anywhere.