It’s not your place to either criticize her or pay her on the head. You’re just some random Barney to her. I get that by writing an essay about a personal experience where comments are allowed one invites criticism. But you overstepped. There’s a difference between offering criticism, even harsh criticism and being critical and mean.
If you’re confused about where that line is, it’s usually around where people start pointing out that you’re being a jackass. I invite you to check the other responses to your comments.
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