It's not the double standard you think it is. Again, it boils down to integrity and honesty in dating.

Man or woman, you are allowed and you need boundaries.

Man or woman, you have the right to say no. Just because someone is attracted to you, doesn't mean that you owe them time or attention.

YOU, the individual needs to be honest about what you want. Both with yourself and the other person. If you really want what you say you want, then you will fucking be acting like it. Your actions will align with your words.

Man or woman, your standards are your standards. If you're chasing after someone who demonstrably doesn't meet your standards and they've been honest about that, that's on you.

If you get involved with someone based on what they made you believe (that they want the same things you do) because they lied with nefarious intent and with a lack of integrity, then that's on them, provided you came to that relationship ship with openness and honesty. Man or woman, doesn't matter.

That's why women get to complain. More often than not, they came to that relationship with integrity and believed in someone who has none, probably because he's brainwashed with Madlow's hierarchy of needs bullshit or whatever.

She's rightfully disappointed because she bought a lemon. Same as buying a used car that the dealer said had never been in a wreck, this that and the third, only for you to find out after purchase that you've been had.

Sometimes it goes the other way. it's not like anyone is saying women are saints. There are bad actors out there that happen to be female.

But in this moment in time, men have become addicted, almost, to the pursuit of sex. And they are treating it / approaching it like any other junkie. You know what junkies will tell you to get their next fix? Anything they think you want to hear or will believe. Or they'll bug you half to death till you give them money just to get them to leave. If you flat out refuse, they'll turn on you. Steal from you, hurt you, even kill you. Anything to get that next fix.

After #MeToo, does any of that sound familiar? It should. If it doesn't, you've not been paying attention.

Is it your fault you got tricked or is it the trickers fault for lying? Men have put that onus on women. "Choose better men" is the constant dumbeat and has been for too long. Well, you men can take your medicine then. That's what you wanted. So choose better women.

The women you're talking about are not going to run you down if you tell them no. They're not going to dog you or abuse you in any way. That no means something. It means they stop and leave you to go about your life.

Also, they're not lying about who they are and what they're about. They are very loud and proud about it.

And there's your double standard. It ends when men stop treating sex like Fentanyl, start valuing quality over quantity, and start practicing some discernment. DO that, and a lot of their other problems will also "magically" start to clear up.