It's not moot, it's just inexact.

If she's lonely or feeling disconnected she'll ask for help around the house to free up time so she has a fairer portion of leisure time.

Okay, so he complies and now we have a bank of time to be spent that we didn't have before.

Maybe she suggest doing something together and he shoots her down. Maybe the make plans but something else intrudes. Maybe the disproportionality has just gone on so long that she needs, not a one off, but some consistency in that tie bank to 'sploot' and recover from long term neglect. People aren't partixukarly happy of joyful while they're 'splooting' but it's necessary to recover from being over extended for too long. Maybe she's using that time to catch up on stuff ahes been wanting to do and hasn't been able to and maybe she doesn't consciousky relialize she's not addressing her unhappiness. Maybe she does and she doesn't care because she's still mad. Maybe by this point she just doesn't want to spend time with him either because she doesn't see him as a companion anymore but more or an annoying coworker she has to put up with in the job of raising children.

Let's face it, by the time a couple gets to therapy for this stuff ... things and feelings have changed. It's not always recoverable, even if you want it to be.