It's not just men actually, but yeah, there's a definite percentage of young people who tend to seek out negativity and fixate on it to their detriment. Then they're just a few unlucky events away from a downward spiral it's almost impossible to get them out of. You're gonna need trained professional help to give you a mental deflossing at that point. The average person really can't help you; it would be a fluke if they convinced you to drop this negative belief system you've comstructed for yourself at this point.