It's not invalidating the experience of abuse of men to clap back on the blaming women narrative or the "social advantage" narrative.

Most of the men who are advocating against male abuse are only doing so as a cudgel to bash women. That's a harsh truth.

Unfortunately, man or woman, that's all part of it. There are still plenty of women who blame other women when their male partner turns on them too. Social change and awareness isn't a quick switch that gets flipped. It's a lot of back and forth and a lot frustration.

I took care of a friend of mine who's female partner stabbed him in the abdomen with a screwdriver 3 times. Gave him a place to live. Helped him get back on his feet. He stayed with me for over a year. Without that cushion, he would have gone back. He kept choosing the same sort of crazy for years after that. There were 4 or 5 more abusive relationships after that. It takes years to unlearn and reset a dysfunctional love map that's been warped in childhood.

So don't think it's dismissive to criticize a faculty narrative within a broader campaign. Abuse won't end for anyone if women at large get blamed for what men suffer and individually for staying in abusive relationships but men never see accountability or accept responsibility on a societal level for the abuse that so many suffer, mostly at the hands of men.