It's not fair game; it shouldn't be.

My observation is that men seem to want women to police other women but refuse to police other men for the out of line things they do.

Look, as a woman I don't want to be the behavior police for the whole world. It's a shit job, no health benefits, it doesn't pay, and I'd happily rather hang out with Urchling and our hell hound.

That said, I also realize that this sort of balancing has to take place with social species and everyone has to be somewhat involved or dynamics shift, personalities that shouldn't have power seize it, things get loaded and out of balance and then social bonds start breaking down.

It can't just be women burdened and responsible with upholding the social Commons and that's what we've had for too long.

Yes, if you admonish women you will get push back. People get defensive. Women get that too, all the time. You can't take it personally, we're all just a drop in the bucket. Change happens with numbers. You put it out there for others to see and reflect on, not to convert the person you're engaging with. Also, you get that moment. None of us know how that moment affwxts things over the course of time. In other words, you might get push back now but in 6 months the person might have come around to your view, you can't know.

If you're looking to be fawned over, or "win" the argument/debate, or gain some prestige or status or something then you're just going to be disappointed. You're not in a competition, you're cultivating...broadcasting mustard seeds.

Beyond your disagreement with Mona Lisa (? I already forgot, I need coffee), please consider that the OP is not advocating for men. This is toxic femininity and it's shady and sexist as hell. Men deserve better than to be thought of, treated, and MANAGED like spoiled, overstimulated toddlers.

Ultimately that's what anything couched in gender essentialism and/or complementarianism does.

It's a gilded cage, my friend. A fucking trap. Run from this shit for your damn lives.