It's hard to answer a question like that, without specifics. And what I can offer won't be 100% because there's no way to account for the traumatized, reactive, bad faith trolls, crazies, etc. Of course.

But generally speaking, if you want to criticize what a woman says, it's best to decenter your ego, don't try to be cute or clever as it too often comes across as either callous and dismissive or superior and sneering. Keep it focused. I would recommend most men stay away from analogies as on the whole they tend to be shit at it from what I've seen. Choose language that expresses concern over oneupmanship. A disagreement or criticism is not a competition. Too many men use language that makes it one.

You're right about the algorithms. Trouble is, many of not most of us know this but atill feel compelled almost to respond because we get blamed for the fallout of them being believed or just saying it either way.

In other words, it's rarely about convincing the person you're arguing or debating with. It's about deterring the amplification of it by others or tying them up to lessen the trolling and mud slinging that others have to deal with.

It's shitty. But this is where we are. As long as the platforms are making money, they don't care about the fallout. And all this trolling does have a negative impact.

It's one of the reasons women don't see men in a very positive light anymore, generally speaking.

Also, I think more men see the misogyny than say they do. It's just so normalized or of secondary concern they don't recognize it.

As far as misandry goes, that's weird too. A lot of what I see men wailing about being misandry is actually just passionate disagreement or mocking of ridiculousness. It's clearly not levied at all men. They swear it is. Yet what insee as definite evidence of misandry they lap up and even thank these women and men for being on their side. Like TradWives. There's so much misandry in their bullshit. It's very surreal.