Ita not about capability. Of course you're capable.

It's about knowledge, self awareness, accountability to one's self, etc.

I'm capable of brain surgery, but you wouldn't want me operating on you. Capable in the sense of I have the ability to achieve proficiency in brain surgery. But I don't have the training or the education, so you wouldn't want me anywhere near your lobotomy. I could get training and education, because nothing's preventing me but I don't have it right now.

You're capable of knowing if you are emotionally harmed. But that doesn't mean you have the scaffolding in place right now to make a fair assessment. Maybe you are self aware, knowledgeable about emotional harm and signs of it, and wholly accountable to yourself. If that's the case, you're a rare bird, because most men aren't.

How could they be? When the main Schick about being a man is to suppress your emotions and dominate? That does not build a mental landscape where one is self aware, knowledgeable about their own emotional states, or accountable to thrmselves or to the community at large.

As I said before, men can't have it both ways.

Do most of you even know why you pursue sex the way you do? Why you're so empty inside? Why you can't connect without it, but it's always the thinnest of tethers and so so fleeting when you do?

To be fair, sometimes you need the perspective of time. Sometimes you don't realize how you've been harmed because it's so normalized or you're still wrapped up in the trauma of it or stuck in negative mental loops. That's true for women too.