It is dehumanizing. Infantalizing too. And no, it's not women's job to fix men, that doesn't mean that most of us wouldn't if we could. Men are half the human race and an integral part of our lives. It does not good to leave you all hurting and floundering, especially since that hurt tends to land on us.

We just can't. Like I said, when guys get to that point, you need professional level assistance guiding you out of the quagmire of your own brains. You need other men on that journey with you, encouraging you and having your back. The average woman doesnt have that specialized training and you don't want or need women for that support.

So we can't help you. The best thing we can do is abandon you to get ourselves and the kids out of harms way and to force you to start the journey and then welcome you back (society level) when youve healed.