It doesn't have to be common, it has to be a reasonable threat, which is based on more than commonality. Lots of times we fear the uncommon more than the common.

A good example of this is fear of death by poisonous snake bites vs fear of death by lightening strikes.

The odds of dying by snake bite are astronomically low. 0.2% of 7000 annual bites in the US every year.

Your chance of dying by lightening strikes is 10%, with your lifetime risk being 1 in 12,500 of being struck by lightening.

Clearly, you're greater risk is the lightening strike. But people fear snakes more. Part of that is cultural, the snake is a symbol for evil thanks to Genesis.

This is what I found when I specifically sesrched for risk of being killed for asking a woman out.

https://www.damemagazine.com/2017/10/24/men-are-killing-thousands-women-year-saying-no/

That's because it doesn't happen . Yet thousands of women around the world, and around a thousand in the US a year are kilked specifically saying no.

This study linked to IPV, more than asking for a first date, it we know that's happened too.

And we have to ask ourselves, "if I let this guy into my life, is he going to kill me and my family at some point.

Google couldn't find a single incident of a man being shot dead by a woman for asking her out when specifically queried. Not one.

Being laughed at is not fatal. Being shot often is.

Nobody ever died from from rejection by a single individual. Nobody ever died from being told no to a date. Nobody ever died from being laughed at.

But a thousand a year are dying due to male violence. Not getting their feelings hurt. Not hearing a no they didn't want to hear. Not feeling rejected. Dying.

And you are conflating the two as some attempted gotcha to validate men's childish and irrational fears as worthy of the same focus and attention. They are not. And it's time you gentlemen grew up and got yourselves in check.