Is it a kind deed upon request? Or is that a form of exploitation.

Wouldn't the kind deed be if you just noticed the kid looking wistfully out the window and offered of your own volition?

Rather than being subjected to subtle passive aggressive peer pressure because women are supposed to be "nice' and cater to children and their mothers?

Good article.

You know, to be fair and just it's said (because I know you don't care about fair - and that's cool) this same dynamic happen in reverse as well. Mothers get that same peer pressure to accept help or offerings they don't want and aren't actually helpful. It's a real thing. Some people get offended and in a snit that you didn't want their help and politely declined.

As a society we've got a lot of boundary issues stemming around children.