Irrelevant. This is FOMO thinking at its worst.

You've got to be an ideal partner for them too, otherwise you'll crash and burn, hurting them and hurting yourself further.

If you're in a state where you need to decenter certain toxic elements from your life to get your life, your head, and your heart in order then you're not ready for a partner, ideal or not.

You need to trust in serendipity to bring you ideal partners when you're ready for them and get to work straightening yourself out from all this shit messaging were all drowning in.

Same applies to men. Men REALLY need to get their heads out of their asses on a few things and they need to decenter women and pursuing sex at all cost to do it.