Irrelevant. I'm not looking for the respect of 'men' because I don't want anything from them. I'm already fully aware that it will be transactional in nature and will be used as a cudgel to keep me in my place or weaponized against me in some way.

I take men as they come. They are what they are and as a woman, I'm better off keeping that nonsense out of my life.

That said, people are individuals and there are many male-bodied individuals who, like me, have set as much of this gender essentialist bullshit aside as they can (it's a journey) and I would be very sad to lose their respect because they're wonderful people. They give one hope about the state of men because they don't have their heads up their asses about it. They're amazing men.

Every abortion outside rape and incest is taking accountability for your reproductive potential because they are most often due to a failure of birth control or a lack of access.

Not sure what you mean about making all sex intentional. If you're referring to only for procreation, you men first.