Ironically, the more honest you are with them about all of it, — the food, the bad, and the ugly — the more likely they are to wait. The more likely they are to deal with these situations when they come up because you’ve given them a strategy for doing so. It’s amazingly empowering to young people to be acknowledged by adults that they are sexual beings instead of being shamed into denial. It’s also relieving to realize that it’s a process, not a switch. Nobody expects you to have it all figured out over night.