In fairness, we haven’t heard from the woman either. We essentially have hearsay, what a 3rd party said she said.

That being the case we either have to dismiss it all outright and not assign blame or shame to either party, or make a moral judgement about the situation as a generalization using the parameters as they were given to us, but knowing that we’re looking at it like a hypothetical only because it IS hearsay.

I chose the latter, but there’s nothing wrong with the first option either.

I chose that because in the commentary, some of the commenters we’re overly zealous in maligning the woman. The particular false charge of "selfish" was deliberately provocative because of recent yammering on social media from the Musk fandom and manosphere using that term to slam and denigrate women who don’t want children, aren’t thrilled with motherhood, want men to be more involved as partners and parents, etc. It’s really been picking up steam. The minute someone claims she’s being selfish based on what little information was given, there’s your bias and misogyny.

If there is “bias” in my response, it’s nothing to do with the man, he’s hypothetical as far as I’m concerned. But I do take issue in particular with bullying type behavior and this language has become a means to bully women online, mostly at the behest of breeders like Musk. If that makes me biased, so be it. Send me my button pin, I’ll wear it with pride.