In both cases, the women are just trying to survive the same thing. Comservative women by seeking shelter with one man and following the rules in an attempt to limit the damage. They'll do their best to choose a weak man they can "influence". They'll put on that mantle of femininity and use it to coercively manipulate men by infantalizing him. If you've ever listened to Phyllis Schlayfly recordings when she talks about exactly why she doesn't want the ERA passed, it comes out often. It's actually sick, literally nauseating.
They'll throw every other woman under the bus to maintain their position because not all of us can wear that mantle of femininity easily. And obviously, it also harms men by keeping them stunted. Yet men eat it up. Every time. I have yet to meet a man who is rightfully and properly outraged and disgusted by such behavior.
I don't feel hated by these women, but I do recognize a mutual level of contempt. They can't understand why women like me won't just follow the rules and get my piece of the pie because that's just the way it is. Be a winner or a loser, as they say. They reduse to see that the rules themselves exclude a lot of women, not everyone wears that mantle well, not everyone wants to be looking over her shoulder her whole life either because the rules give you a shelf life, etc.
To me, they're like bonsai. Pretty to look at, but withered, truncated, constantly being "pruned" , in constant need of attention, and ultimately not what they were born to be. They could have been so much more.
The hypothetical women from South America has her own problems. As a citizen of another country, there's little she can do to help me any more than there is little I can do to help her. Sometimes just bearing witness is enough. It's not a competition for who's got it worse. I keep seeing men promote this idea but foetunately, I'm not seeing many women fall for it and amplify it. Women in South America have suffered horribly due to violence stemming from drug cartels and political corruption. The sad fact is the matter is that my country has been an agent in creating those conditions. I don't blame this woman for her anger. How many have been found brutally raped and murdered and tossed out like garbage or have never even been found?
I feel the righteous rage from these women but it's directed at me as a (US) American, not as a fellow woman.
