I'm with Jessica Wildfire on this one. I'm pro coffee dates. Definitely.

That said, i don't particularly think of them as romantic dates. More like engagements or meetings to determine whether someone you don't know very well might be someone you could have romantic interest in.

So, to my mind they are not romantic dates. They are social dates.

And there's nothing wrong with that. We actually nees more of that kind of thing. Low pressure. Won't break the bank. But show up and engage. Show up to shine and see if the someone else shines too.

Leave expectations and checklists at home. Just have a cup of coffee and get to know someone.

Romance follows when and where it will. You're not ordering a partner out of a catalog. And nobody owes you love or sex for a cup of coffee.

Just be natural and stop obsessing over romantic love. Relax. Have a cup of coffee.