I’m okay with it. In a sense it’s true.
Women do date men to "get things off of them". Things like companionship, children, financial increase and stability through sharing of resources, a sexual partner because women enjoy sex too, backup in the event of emergency, someone trustworthy to finish raising her children in the event of her incapacity or early death, etc.
Those are some of the major things women look at men for as a modern woman.
So yeah, women absolutely look to "get things off of men".
Apples to apples.
Your "apples" turn rotten, however, when evaluated against the fact that the things women value in men do not harm men or dehumanize them the way women view them.
Having a shared household means more disposable income for both parties. Men’s lives are lengthened, enriched, and given a purpose through family. Men have emergencies too, where having another adult dedicated to having your back is a definite boon. A man might get injured or sick somewhere down the line, where having a partner in life to keep things up and take care of you means increases chances of survival and prosperity.
As an aggregate, women are much more likely to value an equal or equitable exchange on these services because they know it’s a mutually beneficial arrangement. They roll their sleeves up and get to work, wholeheartedly and without reservation or trying to get one over on their partner.
Men, on the other hand, as an aggregate, have to be nagged, begged, and cajoled into keeping up their half of the bargain. What they do, they tend to do resentfully, always trying to game the arrangement to further benefit themselves. Always looking for ways to slip out of their fair share. Statistics show time and time again, men are the ones dropping the ball of partnership more often than not.
Cause they don’t want their buddies to say they’re pussy whipped.
Cause they’ve got to dominate to be a man.
Cause they ain’t nobody’s little bitch.
Cause they gotta get respect as a man (where in this instance "respect" equals being served like a king).
Because a man has to be "in charge" to be a man.
Blah blah blah. What-the-fuck drama some slime from bro culture pushes next. It never ends.
Boiling all that down, women want a partner. Men want a bangmaid.
I’d make some other fruit centered remark here, but Lucy Maud Montgomery laid it out much better. "A rose just couldn’t smell as sweet if it were a thistle or a skunk cabbage."
Men offer women a rose but then bring skunk cabbage to her door.
But no group is a monolith and speaking in statistical generalities doesn’t negate that. Of course there are women who decide to “play the game" as well as “play to win at all costs". These women don’t tend to marry though, they go through guys like an ATM machine.
Biggest thing here is, if we’re going to blame women for “choosing bad men" then the reverse must also be true. Men need to value themselves and not be so desperate for sex that they will go after any old skank and allow themselves to be used. They need to have some standards other than getting laid or bagging a beauty to show off to other men.
Just saying. Kinda sucks, doesn’t it? When systemically everything says the opposite and you’re the one responsible for not being gaslit rather than suggest maybe “the system" shouldn’t be one big huge gaslight?
Maybe we should change the system, ya think?
