I'm not saying it's only an issue for women either. I'm saying the way it lands on women makes many of them vulnerable to PUA manipulation.

Like an open undressed wound makes you vulnerable to a Staf infection.

It lands on men differently and causes a different, but also diseased, response and a different vulnerability.

I brought up women because you're a man looking to date a woman and you've mentioned the PUA dynamic a lot in your commentary. Not because I don't recognize it happens to men as well.

So you're a guy looking for a girl and you keep saying that PUAs are the only men getting dates. This is not true. It may be true off of dating apps but most women don't stay on dating apps long. Dating apps are shady. The ones you see in there are damaged women, shady women, women returning to dating and just looking to casual date a while rather than find another relationship, or women new to apps or just giving them a try. The vast majority of women are not finding partners off of dating apps, I don't give a rat's ass what the commercials say.

So it's interesting to me that for someone who says he wants to find someone to give his heart to, you keep looking at women who are clearly damaged and easily manipulated rather than whole, healthy, vibrant women.

There's a couple of reasons why this might be. You're self sabotaging (you think you don't deserve better), you have a savior complex (that's not going to work out btw, never does and I don't give a rat's ass what RomComs, religious buttery, and romance books say), or you just want your fair turn to pretty on a vulnerable and broken woman.

I suspect it's one of the first two but I can't rule out the latter. There's also a good chance it's for a reason that hadn't occurred to me yet.

Have you asked yourself why you're overly interested in women who fall for PUAs? If you want a real relationship, shouldn't you be focusing your attention on women who can actually give it to you rather than on women who can't?

You're an interesting guy Gareth. A puzzle, one who's pieces are scattered all over the place. I think you need someone to talk to. Someone who can help you find and line up all those pieces into what they're supposed to be. I hope you have a friend you can trust.

If you don't, there are groups who do cross mentoring. Maybe consider finding one.