I’m not saying it’s invalid. I’m saying what happened to you is NOT representative of all marriages.

You said divorce is womens' fault because men will do anything to have a happy wife happy life.

Really?

I’m sure you have your friends and they feel they’ve been done bad. Maybe they have. Maybe they’re just nursing grievance. I don’t know them.

I have friends too.

One, her husband slept with her sister to get even with her after they had an argument. She had adopted his daughter from a prior relationship because the mom was struggling with addiction. Full adoption. Raised her as her own. Still is because she divorced him.

Another, her husband beat their eldest in a fit of rage and then when she demanded he go to counseling and quit drinking or else leave the home he beat her too.

A third, she had been saving for grad school so she could continue her education and he wouldn’t support the effort. She went to the college to enroll and the money she had worked an extra part time job for 3 years to earn was gone. He had taken it out and gambled it on a business trip. Except for the bit that was tipped to strippers and buying all his work buddies drinks, obviously.

Yet another, her husband lost his job so she stepped up. She put in for overtime, worked 70 to 80 hours a week to make up the difference for months. All he had to do was pick up the slack at home and look after the kids while he he was looking for a new job. He fell into gaming addiction. The house fell apart, the kids weren’t being fed and then DCS was called in to investigate when their eldest was picked up by a truancy officer walking home from school in the rain because Dad "forgot" to pick him up. She nearly had her kids taken from her.

I could go on. Every one of these women filed for divorce. The divorce was NOT their fault. Every one of these women went above and beyond.

I’ll say it again. To suggest that ALL divorces are womens' fault for not being “fully" committed is gaslighting from your own bitterness. For every story you have of guys who got "blindsided" I’ve got two more from women who literally moved mountains to hold their families together. Until they just couldn’t anymore.

The fact is, there are a lot of people out there, men and women, getting married who have no business being married. They don’t have what it takes to sustain a marriage. As a society we should stop pushing marriage so much. Its not been good or healthy for us.