I'm not angry. I've had all sorts of experience, some relevant on both sides of this.

I'm merely pointing out that what you're describing as an expression of sympathy isn't based on fact. It's based in feeling. That's natural, nothing wrong with it, per se.

But you haven't heard all sides. That person isn't able to defend herself here. That makes this as much gossip as it is sympathy. Further, we dont know if she's aware that the OP is writing these things about her. Maybe she knows maybe she doesn't. Maybe she cares maybe she doesn't.

It's just unwise to involve yourself in internet accusations with no receipts and that are clearly one sided, and picking a side based on similarity of personal experience. You have no reason to believe the OP is truthful and accountable.

I'm just saying this is one of those situations to tread very carefully about.