I'll say it again. It's not happening more because it's still a two party interaction. In order for it to become a behavioral norm, it had to be successful for both parties.

Men have say yes, and step into that receiving role with grace and humility and without causing problems.

What do you think the percentages are on that? The remainder of the ones you cited, right?

That too, is why you don't see women initiating more.

Failing to recognize that fact makes your article sexist.

Because it is not like women haven't tried. Historically, we have jumped a lot of hoops to 'stalk' ourselves into being noticed.

Is that not also initiation? It takes a lot of time and effort to put yourself in some guy's path and keep yourself there until he notices you, all so he can take the credit for initiating a connection and validate his manhood via the 'man as hunter' mythos...just to get the ball rolling.

That's been the only acceptable and successful way for women to initiate. So that's what you see. And you see a lot of it.

And we've been doing that forever. It's even in Pride & Prejudice and look how long ago that was written.

So let's stop putting the entire onus on women to find, build, and maintain relationships with men.