If you have to depend on someone to survive because you have been barred from being self suffient and able to provide for yourself then you have to center the person you depend on because your survival and ability to thrive is now tied to theirs.

If.

They choose to share it. But it's something that can always be held over your head to control or limit you.

And it most often is.

People are naturally compassionate, sure, but they're also naturally opportunistic exploiters.

Eventually which way they tend to drift comes down to what they think they're due, what they're entitled to. In a dominance hierarchy social structure, that's going to be based on their status, identity, and position within that hierarchy.

We've seen how that worked out for women.

We want our freedom.