If it had been me instead of my friend, my daughter likely would have been next, once he got done with me.

She's blond too, and at 4 clearly she was asking for it. She would have been blamed for wearing pajamas. I would have been blamed for not keeping her safe.

The only person who never gets blamed is the rapist.

I guess we have to keep repeating this until you get the point.

It's not the assault that causes the shame spirals and self loathing.

It's how everyone treats you after. How you get blamed and demonized, ostracized and left to death with the trauma someone else inflicted upon you.

It's the isolation and devaluing.

You can't on the one hand argue that men deserve sympathy and validate feeling suicidal on the grounds of having been ostracized, isolated, and made to feel like they have no value to society, which you have...I've seen you in the comments so dont try to deny it...but then insist women are crazy or just plain wrong for validating the realities of suicidal ideation and what got them there (rape and the societal gaslighting that inevitably follows) as being a very real fear and a reality all women face.