I would say no because that would factor in as part of the compendation package. As an employee at a firm, not all of my compensation is in wages. Right?

Same thing.

Look, putting myself in Susan Baumgartner's place, let's consider some things in the quest for fairness. I would not be living in Kevin Costner's house we're it not for that marriage. Showy houses are not how I would choose to spend my money. I would agree to live in that house, if it made him happy. But multi-million dollar houses that require a lot of upkeep and cost a fortune to maintain are not my schtick.

I'd rather have a two room log cabin or a yurt and a reasonable parcel of land.

So is it fair that I be saddled with bills I never would have taken on by myself?

You keep coming around to 'half' or the woman taking the man for everything. She's not asking for half. She's asking for more than the prenup allowed for after 19 years, four children, and a sacrificed business and career that was set aside for that marriage.

She's not asking for half. She's asking for a reasonable amount for her to not have to disrupt their children's lives further and to give her enough of a buffer to move forward in life. Maybe restart that business or another one.

That's reasonable..

Secondly, men keep bringing up that statistic as some kind of gotcha. It isn't. You cannot tell by who filed or who initiated the divorce who is most directly responsible for the failure of the marriage or who broke the vows and promises first. I'd say that's about 50/50. All it tells you is who's doing the labor of ending it.