I tried meetups but I kept getting hit on.

I don't date anymore. Zero interest. Mostly, I wish I was a lesbian.

This angers or upsets lesbians when hetero women say this because they think you think it will solve your dude problems.

I can't speak for all women, but I don't think that. The Random Barneys are always going to be out there and theyre always going to be both random and Barney.

But.

Sometimes I long to be loved in full reciprocity in return for loving someone. And that's rare with a man. Most of us women end up settling and there's always a tint of sadness, depression, and longing to your life.

You make do as best you can. Develop a rich internal life if you can. But there's always that longing.

Or we did. Seems like more of us are deciding that if you're going to be alone, it's better to be alone because married or partnered lonely and alone is the absolute worst.

Far fewer are willing to settle for that shit anymore. Shit sandwiches don't improve just because you put them on a deli plate and dress them up with garnish. It's still a shit sandwich.

As for the study, I don't think it's that problematic as all that. We're not using it as an all inclusive thing, and we're not even looking at it the way the researchers were. We're being upfront about that it's limited.

Its not a revolutionary statement to know that sexual predation follows a certain hazard path that is not directly aligned with harassment as predation. Or just generalized misogyny. Or that you are dogged your whole life, but during one phase of your life, one might be worse than another.

Like, I'm 52. Generalized street harassment has never been so bad. It's not sexual in nature, generally. It's just unhinged, raving vitriol. It's deliberately trying to scare me for entertainment. Or practice.