I tried. But it fell through, as the two I wanted to pod with were sisters and somewhat dependent on grandparent support. Grandparents wanted them looking for a proper husband.

At the time, it didn't occur to me to look at other possibilities more broadly, like a college stusent a few years younger where we agree to stagger child birth, and work/study in order to provise childcare for each other. Or, hiring/trading care with an older 'den' mother who maybe needs a little bit of extra income and has some extra land space for a tiny home so my and my baby would have a place to live, rent free and I could work part time and/or afford child care.

So, anyway, I ended up going it alone and we were fine as I had planned on and prepared for single motherhood to begin with. But having been through it, I can say, if I was thinking about it today, I would not have had children. And if I found myself unexpectedly pregnant and unable or unwillinf to abort, I would definitely go the pod route if I could put it together, having thought through options more now than I did then.

Something else, I would NOT disclose to the
sperm donor. That's new. But, back then the manosphere wasn't as virulent and rabid and SCOTUS hadn't been infiltrated by blithering idiots.