I think you're partially right and partially wrong.

There are toxic women and they are definitely destructive. I have a friend who was stabbed in the abdomen 3 times by a woman. He fled to get to safety. Butt because she made the DV call while he was fleeing, he's the one who got arrested. He never laid a hand on her.

But.

Addicts are always toxic and abusive to those around them to varying degrees. Always. It's usually more emotional and financial abuse and neglect rather than physical, but they are a toxic drain to the people in their lives.

I think he's getting too much of a bye because he's an addict. I do believe he abused her. I recognize he also lied on the stand. I believe it's going to start coming out more publicly about how our of control he's been. He's got another court case coming up. He's being sued because he assaulted a crew member on set and offered a manager 100K to punch the guy in the face after after he had been pulled off him.

Now imagine being a woman alone or in a house with a guy that volatile. He had no problems jeopardizing his professional reputation and came to work lit and loaded to the point where he attacked a guy over nothing.

And then blamed the guy he gut punched multiple times.

How do you think that's going to go? What do you think happens behind closed doors?

People seem to think too polar on this. If she lied and manipulated, them he must be 100% guilt free.

But that's not reality. You can be the victim in one instance and turn right around the next day and be the abuser. That's reality, and often is exactly how it goes. I think that's especially true in this case. You've got a hard core addict and control freak in a romantic relationship with someone who has some sort of clinical emotional instability, BPD or bipolar, abandonment issues, etc. Could there have ever been a more toxic combination possible? Neither one of the is suited to handle the other's problems and most certainly guarantees to exasperate them.

I don't think he's the poster boy male DV want, any more than Heard should have been tapped by #MeToo. He's not a perfect victim either. Not by a long shot. It will come out.

The rest of us need to learn some nuance.

If I had been the judge, I most certainly would have sequestered the jury and closed the trial to the public. I would have capped all the instances of defamation at the $375K or whatever, send Depp to court ordered rehab, Heard to a mental and endocrine health evaluation and treatment plan, 5 years of court ordered therapy for them both with regular follow ups. If either one of them dick the court around anymore they find themselves under an conservatorship like Brittney Spears and/or facing charges for contempt of court. Sentencing would end with, "now get out of my sight and start acting like adults."