I think we all have different tolerance levels as to what we consider aggressive behavior. There are some people for whom minor physical contact without anger directed at them behind it is not a problem but “teasing” leaves them feeling devalued and mistreated.

Forcing your belief perspectives as the only right way to treat someone without thought, regard, or respect for their belief is not a healthy way to have a relationship. If your partner agrees with those boundaries that’s great. I’m glad you’re both in an amicable situation. But you shouldn’t expect everyone in the world to feel the same way about what constitutes mistreatment.

Going after this woman the way you did shows your lack of class and intolerance.