I never said you have to do it all alone.

I said you have to learn to be okay with yourself and not hinge your societal worth on whether or not you fit into "expected criteria". Whether you want it or not, we don't all get that. We have to be okay with ourselves if we don't get romance or a spouse like we want. I also said life partners don't have to be permanent or love interests.

Glad things are going good for you. And yes, my life is full and I'm happy. It's not perfect, but no one's is. I'm okay enough with the less stellar bits that I'm not falling to pieces over it.

It's not the fault of responsibility for heteronormative women to accept you at the expense of being something they are not though. You're not heteronormative. Nothing wrong with it and I hope you continue to fight for other submissive men (and women actually). But you and Subliminus are missing the mark laying the onus of responsibility for all your struggles on 'women' when the majority of us cabt be what you want. It's not a simple choice to not be heteronormative any more than it is to not be gay.

Believe me, if it was I'd have signed up for lesbian conversion treatment or classes long ago. PUA culture has worn me out.