I just doubt you, to be honest. I legit don’t think you’d hold the course even if you started out that way.

Here’s why.

If she was the only one paying for every meal, every outing, every ticket, etc., pretty soon that’s going to start rubbing you the wrong way.

You’re going to start getting looks. You’re going to start getting comments from work associates and friends about being kept and being whipped.

It won’t matter then that your arrangement is technically equal and fair. No one will know it. They only ever see her paying for you.

You’ll become a target to public perception of gender roles and are suffering because of it.

I don’t think your criticism of feminists and feminism is accurate. I think you can’t see beyond your own biases.

I don’t think its about the damn spreadsheet here. I think shes looking back and seeing that he saw financial equity as something shameful that had to be hidden and she feels like she got duped into this arrangement because he wasn’t honest about his intent with the spreadsheets. He lied about motivation.

You’re making it about the money without any reason to believe it’s about money other than the mention of spreadsheets.

True equality doesn’t happen in the dark, it’s nothing to feel shameful about, and it considers the perceptions of everyone involved and how they have to live in the world.