I guess we're going to agree to disagree here. If that works for you and you can parse the difference, then have at it and best of luck. I wish you well. You don't need my permission or my blessing. (You plural here, not you specifically).

I profoundly believe many women are so crushed and twisted up by this culture that they honestly can't tell what's good for them and what isn't any more. For them there needs to be another avenue. At the very least, until they can regain some meaningful sense of themselves and boundaries to protect themselves going forward. While I agree it's probably good not to focus solely on themselves, but to build outward, I think it's better to stay away from people in general for a while. Obviously, I don't mean complete isolation. I just mean don't invest in people too much until you can learn to keep them from drowning and suffocating you. There's nothing wrong with that either. People who honestly feel that way should not be extorted or "encouraged" to give back to the community in order to heal themselves. They don't need anyone's blessing or permission to say, "no. That's not for me. More than I can handle right now," either.