I grew up in the same type area you did. Conservative men were my dating pool as a young woman.

None of them knew how to do a damned thing.

I'm in a more liberal area now (purple) and studied a liberal leaning field in college. I've dates more liberal men than conservative men. You're right about it being a night and day difference. You're wrong about how.

These guys know how to do shit. They're fit. They eat healthy. Best of all, they're not obnoxious about their manhood.

Where you grew up and who you grew up with has less to do with your capabilities, your ethics, your skillsets, or your confidence than what you're trying to paint. It all comes down to opportunity and grievance thinking.

More serial killers grew up in conservative families than not. More family annhialators are conservative than not. More mass shooters are conservative than not.

You're conveniently overlooking a lot of dysfunction that goes along with conservatism and cherry picking a particular time frame where everyone was doing better because their was better economic equity across the board. Those were liberal policies, btw.

But those don't exist anymore, thanks predominantly to conservative policies. Young people don't have the opportunity anymore to grow up how you and I did. It's got nothing to do with living in a city or living in the suburbs or living in a rural area. I've lived in all 3. It's always down to opportunity.