I get what you're saying, but frankly, it's still kind of bullshit.

Here's why.

Those emotional templates you say men are lacking .... They're widely available.

From women in the lives of young men. There are PLENTY of templates and learning opportunities for boys.

The trouble is not that they don't exist. The trouble is that they're not valued because they're attached to the perception of the feminine. Ergo, they're perceived as being not for boys. That grasping them as a boy means there's something wrong with you.

This comes from the longstanding demonization of women and femininity. It's got.nothing in the world to do with what men are capable of or good at.

This is where the idea of toxic masculinity comes from. When your ideas around who you are and how you have to behave basically bars you from your own full experience and expression of humanity, you become a toxic drain on everyone around you. Because they spend their days full of anxiety, walking around on eggshells, wondering when you're going to blow up over minor things and how bad of a tantrum it's going to be. Because you're behaving like a toddler who can't control their emotions, only now you're bigger than most everyone else. And angrier. Because whether you want to have emotions or not, whether you want to deal with them or not, whether you think it's worth investing in or not, emotions are part of being human. We all have them and they are hot sticky little bastards.

So .... Either you control them, or they control you. Regardless of your gender. There is no other way. It doesn't exist.