I get it. My daughter doesn't want children. She just turned 18 so she's a legal adult now. I'd like to have a grandchild, of course, but I told her I get it. If I had to have a child now, I wouldn't do it. I would not have made the same decision I did then and it's all down to circumstances and the life I could confidently give a child.

Urchling is 15(?) years older than your little girl, right?

That's the difference that time frame has made.

I would have chosen not to be a mother. At least, not alone.