I don’t think she was advocating basing one’s whole identity on politics. I didn’t get that from her essay.

I get what you’re saying too but I wonder if you realize you were suggesting the exact scenario she was arguing was why she wouldn’t ignore politics.

You mention being on the autism spectrum. Wouldn’t you want your spouse, presumably a woman, to back you on legislation that would negatively impact you? Even if it didn’t directly affect her? Or even work to oust a candidate who’s making bad decisions that affect you?

But you won’t even discuss feminism? Can she count on you to not vote for an idiot who says women can’t get pregnant from rape again, even if you are both conservative? Can she count on you like you can count on her? Will you have her back like she has yours when it comes to the rules that govern your lives?

That’s what it ultimately comes down to. What’s the point in building a life with someone who won’t have your back when it matters. That’s what ignoring politics does to women. They find out the hard and bitter way that the person they dedicated their blood, sweat, and tears to, the one they share children with … never had their back and doesn’t think things that affect you are even worth considering.