I didn't say you had written about women serving men.

I said men who think about love and relationships in terms of trade offs, etc and never think beyond that are getting married to be served. They don't have to be consciously aware of being self absorbes and where it will lead in order to be self absorbed and it lead to a certain, very predictable result.

Nor did I say that only men engage in relationships for less than stellar, altruistic, or benefecent reasons. I'm saying this line of thinking happens in men as part of the current culture.

The fact remains. One's context for getting into a relationship is important, sets the tone, and greatly contribute to whether or not it will be a success. That's regardless or whether you're talking about a long term marriage or a short term sexual dalliance.