I didn't say my brother is an Incel. He's not. I said he wasn't sexually active.

This is freesom for him too, because he can embrace is asexuality without shame or censure. He doesn't have to accept that not being a sex hound is shameful or a failure of his masculinity.

The fact is, asexuality runs in my family. I have many relatives, male and female, who never developed a profound, persistent interest. In times gone by, it caused a lot of heartache and drama.

But now, being single is more widely accepted and less pitied. My brother and my other family members never deserved the vurden of being pitied, shamed, and censured for what they cannot help. They deserved the right to focus their passuons on what they wanted, rather than the romantic relationships society demands of them.

I'm glad my brother has that. His life is better because of it.

And that's exclusively thanks to the long hard years of work challenging harmful social and cultural scripts by feminists and the LGBTQ community.

That's what feminists wanted. Choice and to have one's worth decoupled from what they produce for society and attached instead to inherent human worth, where it should have been, all along.

Do not mistake him for an Incel or a manophere douchebag.