I didn't say it doesn't happen. Sociopathy is not restricted to the male gender.

I'm saying it's not as rampant as men from the manosphere would have us all believe.

I'm also not saying women are angels. We're not. We're human beings. I am saying that men are certainly no angels and there are more men taking advantage of women than the other way around. That dynamic has been shifting to be more even, which is good in a weird sort of way. But he goal here should.nit be to even the playing field of exploitation but to end the desire to exploit and take advantage of one another.

Theres no point in arguing about the courts anymore. You're clearly well down the manosphere rabbit hole, so far in fact, that you can't even see that what you're saying is irrational and illogical. I'm not going to convince you and you're not going to convince me to buy into male aggrievement nonsense. Ultimately you can't go through life ignorant of how things work and then think you're going to "win". Approaching life that way with a zero sum either-i-win-or-I-lose attitude is a recipe for poor outcomes anyway. Men who fare worse in court do so because they don't know how family court works and they go in trying to win instead of trying to take care of their kids. They go in all aggrieved and entitled, disrespecting the judge, the court, and the process. You can smell that entitlement a mile away.

When women go into family court like that, they do not fare any better. Nor should they.

Men who go in humble, more concerned that the marriage will be dissolved with the least amount of disruption and pain, demonstrating that they're primarily concerned with the well being of their children do equitably as possible (depending primarily on the age of the children - nursing infants need to be near their mothers more).

As far as men wanting to care for their children. If they do, they're doing it. No one is stopping them. But child care starts from day 1, not the day the divorce goes through. Once you're in divorce court the judge will place the children with the primary care giver of more equitable joint custody cannot be worked out.