I didn’t read your other article, so this isn’t an accusation.

Look, we have to narrow the pool so it’s everyone’s right to do so. Otherwise, you’re just wasting your time as well as someone else’s.

There’s nothing wrong, especially if you don’t want to have kids to want to exclude single parents.

It’s not okay to “judge" or shame someone for being a single parent. Being a parent is not a crime. You should be aware that a lot of single parents looking to repartner get a lot of shitty behavior, especially on dating apps.

When you use charged language like “judge", even when you don’t mean it the way others have used it, you’re inevitably going to trigger people.

It’s also true that a lot of nastiness come from people after being asked about the no children statement. Maybe they’re expecting to get blasted or are being reactive themselves. But, maybe the person asking is only asking if it’s a hard limit, or if that would include non custodial parents, older children, if the ban is really about finances, that kind of thing. It might be obvious to you that it’s a hard no, but it actually isn’t for everyone so it pays to be super clear in the kindest way possible.

I think this is one of those things that everyone needs to not automatically make assumptions about, stay open to discussion, and just be honest with a neutral tone about the matter.