I didn’t mean that last bit against him, just some of the commentary and people in general. I should have made that more clear, I guess. Plus, as I was writing about those days, it brought back a lot of petty annoyances from “over help" and “†opposite advice". People can inadvertently make moms feel like a failure before they’ve had a chance to figure things out. And every kid is different, new stuff to figure out and work through.

†I’m terming “opposite advice" as when you need genuine advice and ask but the person you asked goes off on something else that’s got nothing to do with what you asked, but is something you’re doing they don’t personally like or someone nearby chimes in uninvited, same deal.”

Yeah, it’s good he’s offering, generally speaking. It also depends on some specific circumstances you can’t tell from an article. It presents only his side, his truth and perceptions of the situation.

Everyone is writing about how he needs to understand how overwhelmed and exhausted she is, so that’s why she’s irrational. That’s true. But he’s clearly overwhelmed, at a loss of what to do, and likely exhausted too. So it’s not a forgone conclusion that he’s absolute rational right now himself. It’s possible he’s taking things in a manner that wasn’t actually there; maybe a neutral 3rd party wouldn’t have taken what was said the way he did.